Monday, March 31, 2008

Vision Makes A Different


“Vision without action is just a dream.
Action without vision merely wastes time.
Vision coupled with action can make things happen!”

Without vision we won’t able to success. Everybody has a dream, in order to succeed our dream; we have to plan and act it out. The dream that I have in my mind is to become a successful business woman. I want to show everybody that woman can be successful in their career too. In order to make this dream to be true, I realized that communication skill is my first step walk into the business world. Having good communication skill is very useful at the business world. Also, I realized that having good communication skill isn’t enough for me to become an outstanding business woman. So, I chose to choice psychology as my major as well. I know it will be useful for me by having the combination of these two majors. This is the first action that I took to achieve my vision. I know that I want to be a business consultant by heart. Having this in my mind, it puts me to work extra hard. I want to be well-known and respected by others. I want to make a difference for the company that hires me as their consultant.


My plan throughout my life span as followed:

1. Finished college, aim for master degrees. (between 23-25 years-old)
2. Having a full time job in consultant position for a big company. (between 25-30 years-old)
3. Become a well-known consultant in USA. (between 40-50 years-old)
4. Be rich and healthy. (after 50 years-old)

Monday, March 24, 2008

"Isn't it better to be hated than to be loved?"


The undesired behavior that I have acquired is irritability. I am easily annoyed by people who don’t listen to me, especially at work. I have no patience for them because when people don’t listen, I perceive it as a sign of disrespect. When somebody gets on my nerves, I can easily change my emotion from happy to unhappy. Another thing that makes me have a bad temper and makes me aggressive is when I think about power. For me, irritability equals to power and power can talk and I want to be a person that has lots of authority.
Throughout my childhood, I am always the only one that gets everybody’s attention. When others don’t pay attention to me, I feel so angry and so disappointed. My family members treat me very well as I grew up because I am the only daughter. Even now, I still try to tell others that I am the only one, I am the special one, and they should treat me well if not, they will lose me forever. Sometimes, I will feel so isolated because I am always imagining myself as a higher status person. However, having a bad temper or aggressive action isn’t always a bad thing because it seemed people respect me more when I am angry.
Starting at my workplace, I shortly realized that having a stoic emotion on my face and not getting easily annoyed would gain me respect from others. Nowadays, people love to step down on others to climb up or step down on others to make them feel better. For me having irritability personality is a mess that protects me from being stepped on. Therefore, I know that it is a good thing for me to know how and when to use my temper as a weapon. Also, I understand it isn’t a good idea to having irritable personality all the time because I will have a higher chance of getting heart attacks, high blood pressure or strokes. Overall, I think bad temper comes from stress, power, and environmental pressure. I know it will benefit us if we know how to use our temper wisely and learn more about the effects of bad temper. So, I think an irritability personality isn’t necessary a bad thing in certain situations especially when you’re the boss and there are deadlines to meet. I’m the woman in POWER!!!

Tuesday, March 18, 2008

Compromising


Professor Kurpis shocked everyone when he announced that we can decide our grading system and the format of our next exam. As a student, I know that everybody would love to get a higher grade on their transcript, so that’s why everybody is glad to hear about this opportunity. Professor Kurpis tried not to interfere with our decisions, so he seats back on his chair through out the decision making process. Half of my classmate wanted to drop the lowest grade, and the other half of them wanted to curve it. In order to fulfill everybody’s needed, we decided to drop the lowest grade and curve the highest grade. Around 98% of our classmates think it is a brilliant idea. However, three people didn’t agree with this idea because they think it is not fair to the professor. Through out the whole decision making process, everybody seems so energized and formidable because everybody wanted to speak out their opinion about how the exam should be graded. It took about 30 minutes for us to decide the grading system that we desire. In the beginning, not 100% of student really in favor of this proposal from their heart, but we still have 100% on the vote after we set up a compromise with them. They understand that it might be better for the majority. Usually when I get into a chaotic situation, I would be more likely to use the method “compete to win” to handle it. However, after this class activity, I learned that it is better to “compromise” with others in a chaotic situation because we can get better result. We all got what we wanted because we compromise with each other.