Secrets

I think it is a brilliant idea that we can share our thought and exchange our information by writing on the blog. By doing this assignment, we will understand more each other and respect other people’s background which it will help our communication in class go smoothly. Also, writing a blog helped us to memorize the activities that we had done in class more in deep and by writing a blog; it even emphasize the need to understand it and how to apply it in our daily life. And this is a good way to shares our feeling and experiences. Therefore, we learn from each other as we read other people’s blog. Well, prof’s blog are interesting for us to read and to think about it because professor trends to go more in deep than what we learn in class. Therefore, it is always better to know more and understand more about management by reading professor’ blog. And I believe that management skill is a life long learning skill; it is hard to actually study directly from books. However, as we read more, we will understand the concept more and can apply it in our daily life if we need to. For me, I will definitely post my thoughts after this class had ended because I like to share my feeling with others. By doing this, it makes me feel better because I know somebody in this world will able to understand me. I noticed that people are hiding ours feelings more and more often as we get older because we want to protect ourselves from being hurt. It is human nature that we don’t want to be harmed by others. So, it is a good idea keep a blog and to writing out experiences and feelings and share it with others since nobody knows who wrote it.

Management

Management is power,
The more management skill you have the more power you have.
Management is a leader,
It leads you to reach your goal, to clam up to a higher position.
Management is a position,
The position that others would respect and dream at night.
Management is enrichment,
It encourages you to learn more new information and skill.
Management is a vision,
It is a dream that can come true if we work hard to achieve it.
Management is success,
It can prove others that how much you have done for the company.
Management is a teacher,
It teaches you how to rule and control people or things.

I'm the woman in POWER !!!

The result that I came out on management diagnostic is Type D high I. This result explains my personality a lot, I am the kind of person who will think of power frequently and know how to use power when I needed it. “Power” is part of my life. I love to have power and wanted to have lots of power. However, I am scare that the thirsty of power will cause me into a big trouble in the future too. Also, I believe in absolute power. I always firm on rules at my work place. The personality that I have now is probably formed when I was a child.

Throughout my childhood, I am always the only one that gets everybody’s attention. When others don’t pay attention to me, I feel so angry and so disappointed. My family members treat me very well as I grew up because I am the only daughter. Even now, I still try to tell others that I am the only one, I am the special one, and they should treat me well if not, they will lose me forever. Sometimes, I will feel so isolated because I am always imagining myself as a higher status person or having an absolute power. However, having an aggressive action isn’t always a bad thing because it seemed people respect me more when I am angry.

Starting at my workplace, I shortly realized that having a stoic emotion on my face and not getting easily annoyed would gain me respect from others. Nowadays, people love to step down on others to climb up or step down on others to make them feel better. For me having irritability personality is a mess that protects me from being stepped on. Therefore, I know that it is a good thing for me to know how and when to use my temper as a weapon. I’m the woman in POWER!!!

Also, I understand it isn’t a good idea to having that kind of personality all the time because I might have a higher chance of getting heart attacks, high blood pressure or strokes. Overall, I think the kind of personality comes from stress, power, and environmental pressure. I know it will benefit us if we know how to use our temper wisely and learn more about the effects of bad temper.

I want to have a more conscientiousness type of personality because I think it would be nice if I think more before I act. So, I can make better decisions as the result. Also, I think making decision don’t need to be made fast, it needs to be made accurately. And I believe that our personality is form by internal and external force, so it is hard for us to change to another type of personality now. However, I know I will try my best to change my personality to be more conscientious.

Vision Makes A Different

“Vision without action is just a dream.
Action without vision merely wastes time.
Vision coupled with action can make things happen!”

Without vision we won’t able to success. Everybody has a dream, in order to succeed our dream; we have to plan and act it out. The dream that I have in my mind is to become a successful business woman. I want to show everybody that woman can be successful in their career too. In order to make this dream to be true, I realized that communication skill is my first step walk into the business world. Having good communication skill is very useful at the business world. Also, I realized that having good communication skill isn’t enough for me to become an outstanding business woman. So, I chose to choice psychology as my major as well. I know it will be useful for me by having the combination of these two majors. This is the first action that I took to achieve my vision. I know that I want to be a business consultant by heart. Having this in my mind, it puts me to work extra hard. I want to be well-known and respected by others. I want to make a difference for the company that hires me as their consultant.


My plan throughout my life span as followed:

1. Finished college, aim for master degrees. (between 23-25 years-old)
2. Having a full time job in consultant position for a big company. (between 25-30 years-old)
3. Become a well-known consultant in USA. (between 40-50 years-old)
4. Be rich and healthy. (after 50 years-old)

"Isn't it better to be hated than to be loved?"

The undesired behavior that I have acquired is irritability. I am easily annoyed by people who don’t listen to me, especially at work. I have no patience for them because when people don’t listen, I perceive it as a sign of disrespect. When somebody gets on my nerves, I can easily change my emotion from happy to unhappy. Another thing that makes me have a bad temper and makes me aggressive is when I think about power. For me, irritability equals to power and power can talk and I want to be a person that has lots of authority.

Throughout my childhood, I am always the only one that gets everybody’s attention. When others don’t pay attention to me, I feel so angry and so disappointed. My family members treat me very well as I grew up because I am the only daughter. Even now, I still try to tell others that I am the only one, I am the special one, and they should treat me well if not, they will lose me forever. Sometimes, I will feel so isolated because I am always imagining myself as a higher status person. However, having a bad temper or aggressive action isn’t always a bad thing because it seemed people respect me more when I am angry.
Starting at my workplace, I shortly realized that having a stoic emotion on my face and not getting easily annoyed would gain me respect from others. Nowadays, people love to step down on others to climb up or step down on others to make them feel better. For me having irritability personality is a mess that protects me from being stepped on. Therefore, I know that it is a good thing for me to know how and when to use my temper as a weapon. Also, I understand it isn’t a good idea to having irritable personality all the time because I will have a higher chance of getting heart attacks, high blood pressure or strokes. Overall, I think bad temper comes from stress, power, and environmental pressure. I know it will benefit us if we know how to use our temper wisely and learn more about the effects of bad temper. So, I think an irritability personality isn’t necessary a bad thing in certain situations especially when you’re the boss and there are deadlines to meet. I’m the woman in POWER!!!

Compromising

Professor Kurpis shocked everyone when he announced that we can decide our grading system and the format of our next exam. As a student, I know that everybody would love to get a higher grade on their transcript, so that’s why everybody is glad to hear about this opportunity. Professor Kurpis tried not to interfere with our decisions, so he seats back on his chair through out the decision making process. Half of my classmate wanted to drop the lowest grade, and the other half of them wanted to curve it. In order to fulfill everybody’s needed, we decided to drop the lowest grade and curve the highest grade. Around 98% of our classmates think it is a brilliant idea. However, three people didn’t agree with this idea because they think it is not fair to the professor. Through out the whole decision making process, everybody seems so energized and formidable because everybody wanted to speak out their opinion about how the exam should be graded. It took about 30 minutes for us to decide the grading system that we desire. In the beginning, not 100% of student really in favor of this proposal from their heart, but we still have 100% on the vote after we set up a compromise with them. They understand that it might be better for the majority. Usually when I get into a chaotic situation, I would be more likely to use the method “compete to win” to handle it. However, after this class activity, I learned that it is better to “compromise” with others in a chaotic situation because we can get better result. We all got what we wanted because we compromise with each other.

"Unbreakable"

Having a good planning is the way for success. In general, planning is the first thing that we have to do before we actually do anything. Companies won’t able to do well if they didn’t plan a head before. During the exercise that we had done in class, I realized that a good planning and good teamwork can make the proposal to be process successfully. First, we deigned something to protect the egg so it won’t be broken when it fall from a high place. Sometimes, it is hard to come up with a plan. However, having good teamwork can lead to good planning. I guess our team is doing quite well in that exercise even though we didn’t earn those 5 points extra. After I see other group’s egg, I think they are so smart. So, that’s why I think having good leadership; strong teamwork and a perfect planning can lead the team’s success. It is a wonderful experience for me to understand that that planning is so important for our life, no matter what we are doing; we must have a good planning first.

"Manger isn't equal to Learder"

"Is he is a successful leader or manger?"

The biggest current management problem that I found out in the place that I am working at now is leadership problem. The manger that I work with isn’t a good leader because he didn’t win our heart. And I noticed that when we mention about manger we will think about leader. However, in real life “Manger isn’t equal to leader”. For what I had understood, good leaders should able to make their workers to have motivation at work and they should able to make their workers feel satisfaction about their job. Unfortunately, manger’s duty is to reinforce the rule at the work station, so he has to be strict and always carrying a black face with him. Maybe he is trying to follow what Shakespeare had said before, “It is better to be fear then to be loved.”

What is life mean to you?

What is life mean to you?
For me, life is like a play
We are the actors
We all have our own roles
Sometime we may need to play many roles at the same time
Day by day, year by year
Time is passing by
We just didn't realize that we lost so much time
Because we were busy with our own performance
We didn't have time to slow down
To really look at the world
Neither to feel and see the beauty of the world
Nor to pay attention to our surroundings

As professional actors
We have to hide our true feelings
To act like the one that we want to be
To be tough, strong and cool
People actually are not as strong, tough and cool as they appear
They just pretended to be

Because they want to protect themselves from being hurt
As a matter or fact, humans are afraid of death
What makes us afraid of death?
No matter how hard we pretend
We are still afraid of death, even if we didn't say it out loud
You know what makes death so scary?
It comes from the fear of dying soon,
Remember that we are mortal, we will die someday
But when the day comes
We will not have time to be afraid of it anymore
Well, we are born with nothing (empty-handed)
And we shall leave with nothing (empty-handed)

We will try to do whatever we can to succeed at our dream
But we just didn't realize how much we have given up
What did we get back in return?

My Personalities

Well, I am the person who has two kinds of personalities. One side of mind acts like a baby and the other side of me, which is the one that I wanted to be, is to be a successful woman. I want everybody to love me and to take a good care of me. Always want somebody to surround me to play with me when I feel lonely. However, sometimes I will act as a strong woman. I like to be a leader and wish to be a leader because I like to give out orders. I don’t want to be a follower because I am the one who always give orders to the people that surround me as I grew up. I want to tough, and I learn to be tough as I explore more and more about the ugly side of this society. I know people would step on me, if I am not tough enough in this society. So, I really need to be pushing myself to be as tough as I can. Also, I want to show everybody that women can be as tough as men too. I said to myself that, if man can do that, I must able to do that too.